I originally wrote this post back in 2010. Reposting it for 2026 because it is as relevant today as it was when I first wrote it. Enjoy.
Leisa Monique
Everyone does it- resolve to do something different, change something about themselves or their career at the beginning of every year, and by the end of the first month, most have already fallen off the wagon! It’s not that those making the resolutions don’t want to reach the goal they have set for themselves or don’t have the drive to see it through; the problem lies more in the resolution itself!
Most of the time, when we make a resolution, we focus on an outcome: To lose weight! To stop smoking! To stop cussing! To start a business! To clean out the closets…you get the picture. These are all outcomes! But how many of us consider the process to achieve these outcomes? Ah, here is the problem-there is a process!
When you make a resolution to, let’s say, get in shape, the process to reach your goal involves changing your eating habits, exercising regularly, and addressing any health concerns that may be hindering your weight loss. But the biggest problem of all is that you must address the reason for your current weight situation, and that, my friend, is internal!
When we make resolutions, we tend to focus on the external and rarely address the internal reasons for our current state. If you want to stop smoking, have you addressed the reason why you smoke? Do you get anxious and smoking “calms your nerves?” Address why you get anxious and how it makes you feel! Does being in a particular situation trigger some other thought-rejection, perhaps, that causes you to be anxious, which causes you to want to smoke? Do you see how it all goes together?!
Business coach/Trainer Julius Henderson wrote a book called “The 7th Decision,” which deals with decisions (resolutions) and the process of getting to the actual decision. I love this book and highly recommend it to anyone looking to make life changes!
It’s perfectly OK to want to change or discard old habits and create new ones. Just make sure that when you are deciding on what you are resolving to change, you consider the other decisions that will go into making that change! I suggest sitting down and making a list of things that will also have to change if you are going to fulfill your resolutions and see if these additional decisions are something you can handle.
For instance, can you deal with changing your eating habits if you want to lose weight? Are you prepared to scale back your living expenses, which often come with starting a business, if that is your goal? These are all decisions that must be considered if you are going to fulfill your resolution.
So, go ahead! Make your resolutions and be prepared to address other areas of concern that will ultimately help you be all that you resolve to be! You can do it! After all, you are awesome! Amazing! Resilient! And powerful! You are YOU!!
In luv and dessert,
Leisa Monique
Eat My Dessert First 
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