If you’re anything like most human beings, you are easily able to give to others. Whether it be your time, helping a friend, giving money, a thoughtful gift, cooking them a meal, or even a word of encouragement, you give of yourself freely. But allowing yourself to receive these same gifts from others may not be so easy.
Many times we feel a sense of guilt at the thought of “taking” what others are offering to us. Why is it so easy for us to give but so hart to receive? The answer, I believe, is value.
When we give to others, we feel good and get a sense of our own value. but when receiving what others are offering to us, we may feel like we are taking something that we don’t deserve. But you deserve all of the goodness that others are offering to you.
Today I encourage you to allow yourself to receive as easily and as freely as you give. Remind yourself that you are deserving and worthy to receive all of the goodness that is offered to you. Please understand that just as good as you feel giving to others, they feel as good giving to you and when you freely receive what they are offering, you allow them to feel good about giving.
So this week as you give, remember to receive all that is being offered to you.
How are you starting off our week? I hope you will start it off by being good to yourself and luv’ing yourself. I hope you will tell yourself good things about yourself and remind yourself that you are all that you are created to be. With all that we have going on around us, it may be easy to lose sight of that. Don’t.
No matter where you are at in your life right now, no matter what you are experiencing, no matter the “challenges,” please know that everything you are experiencing is here for your personal growth and evolution. Nothing has come to hurt you, it has come to help you evolve, develop, and grow. Embrace the space that you are in and always know that you are right where you are supposed to be.
I’m sure you have seen them already. Friends’ social media posts about New Year’s resolutions and how 2021 is going to be their best year ever. You probably are thinking about your own resolutions and what you want the new year to look like for you.
If you’re like many of us you have made resolutions in the past that have not been fulfilled. After all, it is believed that 80% of people fail to achieve their new year’s resolutions. There are many articles about why we fail to fulfill new year’s resolutions and I myself have written about this in the past. So, if you want to be a part of the 20% of people who actually fulfill their new year’s resolutions, here are four questions to ask yourself before you make your resolutions for the new year. Being honest with yourself and really thinking about these questions just might get you on the path to fulfilling your resolutions so that you can truly have the best year of your life.
Why have my resolutions failed in the past?
Being honest with yourself and digging deep to find out why previous resolutions went unfilled is one of the best ways to ensure you fulfill future resolutions. There are many reasons we fail to fulfill resolutions and sometimes it’s because we didn’t change the behavior or our thinking. Fulfilling resolutions requires making changes within ourselves. If we take the same thinking and behavior into the new year, we can be sure that whatever we resolve to do will turn out the same way as in the past.
2. How did I decide on the resolutions I made?
There are many reasons why we make the resolutions that we make. Asking ourselves how we decided to make those resolutions and understanding their source can go a long way in helping us fulfill future resolutions. Ask yourself did you have a healthy sense of self-worth when you made previous resolutions or were you operating from a place of low self-worth? Were your resolutions rooted in fear? For example, if you have experienced financial challenges and you feared not having enough money in the future and you made a resolution to save more money, if you have not dealt with the thinking and behaviors that caused you not to save in the past (maybe you’re an emotional spender or you haven’t set a budget) you are bound to repeat the behaviors that prevented you from saving in the first place and your resolution to save more money will go unfulfilled
3. What did I change about myself to help me fulfill my resolutions?
2020 presented us with many opportunities for personal growth and development and to make changes within ourselves. 2020 challenged us to think about how we treat ourselves and the people around us. It presented us with opportunities to evaluate how we live our lives,
4. What process can I put in place to support myself and keep me on track to fulfill my resolution(s)?
Having a process or “system” in place to support yourself and help you work through challenges is one of the best ways to ensure your resolutions get fulfilled. I write about it here. Having such a process in place not only helps you work through issues and builds you up, but it can also help you stay motivated and on track to fulfill your goals. Whether it’s a Spiritual practice that consists of meditation, crystals, prayer or it’s something else like daily desserts and positive self-talk, having a practice in place that you rely on when you are feeling doubt and/or fear that threatens to derail your resolutions can help get you back on track.
There you have it. Four questions to ask yourself before you make your new year’s resolutions. Asking these questions of yourself and answering them honestly may be just what you need to make resolutions that you will be able to fulfill. Whatever resolution(s) you decide to make, remember to give yourself some grace and some space and understand that life is going to happen as it always does. Know that this doesn’t have to throw you off track to achieving all that you resolve to achieve. So go ahead, make your resolutions, and look forward to having one of the best years of your life.
Recently I was driving and thinking about the fact that folks in my circle were saying that they were not feeling the Christmas Spirit. I realized that I wasn’t either. With everything going on around us be it socially, politically or otherwise, I can see why we are feeling that way.
One thing that I do when I am feeling a certain way is ask myself the question of why I’m feeling that way and what is the source of the feeling. After asking this question about not being in the Spirit, I realized that it was because I had not CREATED the Christmas Spirit within me. I started to reflect on all the things that were going on in my own life and how I had let them interfere with my joy. I also realized that I decided at that point that I was going home to decorate my home and do what I needed to do to create the feeling of Christmas.
While getting together with girlfriends the next day I asked them if they were in the Christmas Spirit. It wasn’t a surprise when they both replied that there weren’t. I shared my revelation of not creating the Christmas spirit that I had had the previous day with them, and we all agreed that the Christmas Spirit is something that we could create. We had a profound conversation about how people no longer greet each other with a “Merry Christmas” or a “Happy Holidays” much anymore Like we experienced when we were growing up. We reflected on how as children, we remembered our parents greeting neighbors and people on the street with holiday greetings and well wishes. We remembered the holiday baking and cooking and the feeling that these acts brought with them. But we also reflected on some of the traumas that we associated with this time of the year and how they still affect us. It was a beautiful conversation on personal responsibility and connections and the power of creation. We left there agreeing to go about our days greeting people that we came in contact with and doing our part to crate the Holiday Spirit that we felt was missing.
I hope that if you are not feeling much like Christmas right now or are not in the Spirit of the holidays, that you will get yourself to a place where you can create the feeling and the experience that you desire. As Divine beings we have the power to create the reality that we want to have. Whether it be the holiday Spirit or a life that we enjoy, we are powerful beings Divinely gifted with the power to create our realities. There are many resources out there to guide you in this process. I f you need help with this please reach out. I am always here. May you have the happiest of holidays and may you create the life that you truly desire.
National Dessert Day happens to fall on my favorite day of the week: Monday. Couple this with the Full Moon in Aries and I’m in my happy place. Here at EMDF we believe that Monday, the start of the week for many, is a great day to set the tone for the rest of your week. It’s a great day to DECIDE that you will have the kind of week/days that make you happy. If you need some inspiration Indulge in one of our Daily Desserts. You’ll be sure to find something that inspires you. have yourself a great Monday!
In honor of Valentines Day, I am reposting one of my favorite blog posts that I wrote some years ago. I find that it is as relevant today as it was when I first wrote it. Enjoy.
“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi, thirteenth-century Sufi poet “Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.” ― Steve Maraboli
As we celebrate the day of luv remember to honor, luv and accept your SELF right where you are. SELF is the core of who you are, your essence your Divinity. Accept it, luv it and honor it for doing so you are honoring the Divine in you!
Do something nice for your SELF today: rest, take a hot bath, dance, read a book, listen to soothing music…give your SELF a break from the stress and strain of life and give your SELF something wonder-filled.
I do hope that while you are expressing luv to those in your circle that you will take the time to give luv to your SELF. To guide you into doing do Please download my gift of Luv to you. It is an e-book entitled Daily Desserts to Inspire Self-Luv. I hope that it will indeed inspire you to find luv within you.