Recently I was driving and thinking about the fact that folks in my circle were saying that they were not feeling the Christmas Spirit. I realized that I wasn’t either. With everything going on around us be it socially, politically or otherwise, I can see why we are feeling that way.
One thing that I do when I am feeling a certain way is ask myself the question of why I’m feeling that way and what is the source of the feeling. After asking this question about not being in the Spirit, I realized that it was because I had not CREATED the Christmas Spirit within me. I started to reflect on all the things that were going on in my own life and how I had let them interfere with my joy. I also realized that I decided at that point that I was going home to decorate my home and do what I needed to do to create the feeling of Christmas.
While getting together with girlfriends the next day I asked them if they were in the Christmas Spirit. It wasn’t a surprise when they both replied that there weren’t. I shared my revelation of not creating the Christmas spirit that I had had the previous day with them, and we all agreed that the Christmas Spirit is something that we could create. We had a profound conversation about how people no longer greet each other with a “Merry Christmas” or a “Happy Holidays” much anymore Like we experienced when we were growing up. We reflected on how as children, we remembered our parents greeting neighbors and people on the street with holiday greetings and well wishes. We remembered the holiday baking and cooking and the feeling that these acts brought with them. But we also reflected on some of the traumas that we associated with this time of the year and how they still affect us. It was a beautiful conversation on personal responsibility and connections and the power of creation. We left there agreeing to go about our days greeting people that we came in contact with and doing our part to crate the Holiday Spirit that we felt was missing.
I hope that if you are not feeling much like Christmas right now or are not in the Spirit of the holidays, that you will get yourself to a place where you can create the feeling and the experience that you desire. As Divine beings we have the power to create the reality that we want to have. Whether it be the holiday Spirit or a life that we enjoy, we are powerful beings Divinely gifted with the power to create our realities. There are many resources out there to guide you in this process. I f you need help with this please reach out. I am always here. May you have the happiest of holidays and may you create the life that you truly desire.
National Dessert Day happens to fall on my favorite day of the week: Monday. Couple this with the Full Moon in Aries and I’m in my happy place. Here at EMDF we believe that Monday, the start of the week for many, is a great day to set the tone for the rest of your week. It’s a great day to DECIDE that you will have the kind of week/days that make you happy. If you need some inspiration Indulge in one of our Daily Desserts. You’ll be sure to find something that inspires you. have yourself a great Monday!
From right to left Tina, Rhachelle Nicole, Jess Flo, off Black Girls Inspired
Last week-end I had the pleasures off being invited to attend an event hosted by Rhachelle Nicol . The name off the event was the My Scars Chat this was a live panel discussion that focused on Domestic Violence’s on family, children and communities. The panel discussion was between men and women and focused on mental, physical, verbal and financial abuse. The panelists were all experts on the these issues and some off them even had gone through domestic violence themselves.
All I can say is hats off to Rhachelle Nicol for bringing more awareness to Domestic Violence in our community and hosting such an amazing event. It was very empowering to hear all the different stories these men and women shared. There wasn’t a dry eye in the room when it was over. It was so amazing to see so many brave men and women open up and express them…
When was the last time you told your SELF Thank You? As
you’ve thanked everyone for helping you, encouraging you and supporting you,
have you thanked your SELF? It is easy to overlook the very person who dreams,
who perseveres, who tries time and time again even when they fail. The person
who gets up each day and goes about their day no matter how routine or mundane
it may seem. The person who provides for themselves and their families. The
person who supports and encourages others. The one who is always there for
their friends and family. The person who believes in themselves, and in the
power of their own dreams.
So often we make it a point to thank other people in our lives. When someone expresses kindness to us, we thank them. When someone gives us a compliment, we thank them. When someone offers their support to us, we thank them. We make sure to thank others. But thanking ourselves is something we may rarely think of doing but should do more often. After all, it is you that takes care of you. It is you that gets up and moves forward even when you don’t feel like it. Without YOU, you wouldn’t be able to do any of the things that you do. So, just as you acknowledge other and give thanks to and for them, do the same for your SELF and tell YOU Thank You.
In honor of Valentines Day, I am reposting one of my favorite blog posts that I wrote some years ago. I find that it is as relevant today as it was when I first wrote it. Enjoy.
“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi, thirteenth-century Sufi poet “Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.” ― Steve Maraboli
As we celebrate the day of luv remember to honor, luv and accept your SELF right where you are. SELF is the core of who you are, your essence your Divinity. Accept it, luv it and honor it for doing so you are honoring the Divine in you!
Do something nice for your SELF today: rest, take a hot bath, dance, read a book, listen to soothing music…give your SELF a break from the stress and strain of life and give your SELF something wonder-filled.
I do hope that while you are expressing luv to those in your circle that you will take the time to give luv to your SELF. To guide you into doing do Please download my gift of Luv to you. It is an e-book entitled Daily Desserts to Inspire Self-Luv. I hope that it will indeed inspire you to find luv within you.