Fear and Personal Responsibility

Wow, I can hardly believe that I just posted my very first video on YouTube and I feel pretty good about it. About the video, yes, but more about taking personal responsibility and finally working through the fear that I felt about posting videos. I have my 12 year old fearless daughter to thank for that and for this post. It’s what I like about kids; they don’t succumb to fear. My daughter posts her videos and shares her thoughts with the world regardless of who may not like it and I have learned a lot from her. She handles her emotions about it like a champ!

Recording and posting this video reminded me of the anxiety that I used to have about such things. I worked through the fear of speaking publicly years ago and can now work a stage like you wouldn’t believe! I’m in my element when I’m on stage in front of a group of powerful women and I can say that being in front of a camera doesn’t bother me much either. By now you might be asking “So what was the fear about then Leisa?” Well, it was about feeling exposed and not in control. You see, when I’m on stage speaking, I have a good idea of who I’m speaking to. I get to choose who I get in front of and what I say and the audience is fairly limited. I’m prepared for this.  But posting a video of me talking about something I’m passionate about on a social media site exposes me to the world and for me that was a little scary.

People can be ruthless in their commentary and critique everything from your hair to what you are wearing to your grammar to everything and that was part of the fear; I wasn’t ready to feel the sting of people’s critique. But I also wasn’t ready for the praise that may come as well. Ahhh, the dichotomy of it all.

 If you watch the video you’ll notice that I am completely natural. I purposely wore no makeup and kept everything simple. I wanted to present myself JUST AS I AM in the raw. This is me y’all. As much as I talk about being your authentic self and being transparent I felt it necessary to present myself as such in my first video. But other’s may not feel that way and that’s OK with me. I’m a very simple girl and that translates into every aspect of my life.

I know that working through fear isn’t always easy. But knowing who you are-powerful, Divine, beautiful, love-and knowing that nothing anyone says about you can change that helps. When you are completely confident in who you are you can move forward through life and not worry about what others have to say about you. You can understand the place they are in and the source of their comments and give them the space to be where they are and know that it has nothing to do with you.

One of the most valuable pieces of wisdom I ever received was that “I am above no one and I am beneath no one.” Embracing this teaching has proven to be powerful for me and it has provided me with the ability to resist personalizing what other’s have to say about me. Reminding myself of this has been invaluable in helping me take responsibility for my own existence. It has taken some time as it relates to publicly posting videos but I’m happy to say I’m here and I’m excited.

I hope that you will take this to heart and whenever you are feeling fear about something know that no one can do it for you but you. We can look to others for inspiration but the power lies within you. so push fear aside, remember who you are and do your thing!

In luv and Dessert,

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Eat My Dessert First Intro and Personal Responsibility

Oh my goodness!! I FINALLY published my first video! At the urging of  advisors and close friends, I finally decided to make a video and actually post it. Y’all, this was a grueling process! I can see why some people avoid making and posting videos; it took forever to post!

To be honest with you, this is not the first video that I have recorded but it is the first one that I actually posted. Why? Because of fear! Yep, even I get fearful at times; fearful of criticism and even fearful of praise.  but this year I decided that I was going to operate in excellence and that means giving my best and part of that working through whatever fear I have about publishing and doing it!

Even though in the video I speak about something close to me that I’m really passionate about-personal responsibility-this video was more about actually DOING it and follow through! This is an area that I have not been as strong in as I would like to be but all that is changing!! I’m taking personal responsibility for my life and how I live it! I hope you find some inspiration to do the same!

In luv and Dessert,

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Magnificent Monday-Recalibrate Your Life

Already this morning I’ve seen the “Manic Monday” and other posts about how horrible Monday is for some. This always baffles me because I look at Monday as the beginning and a perfect opportunity to decide what kind of week you are going to have. I look at is as a perfect time to calibrate your week.

I know it’s the first day after the weekend but that is the perfect time to move past your previous week and start over on your goals and desires. Maybe you didn’t get done all that you wanted to get done in the previous week; Monday is a perfect day to decide to finish it. Maybe you experienced some challenges in the previous week or over the weekend; Monday is a perfect day to move past those challenges. It’s a perfect day to decide that you are going to have a productive week. It’s a perfect day to decide that you are not going to have the same kind of day or week that those around are you are having. It’s a perfect day to decide that YOU are going to live the life that you want to live.

 If you have traditionally dreaded Monday and looked at it as the worst day of your life, I implore you to recalibrate and change your outlook on Monday. It’s the beginning, a clean slate and you and only you get to decide how your week is going to go. Regardless of how those around you are behaving, choose to be happy today. Choose to be in peace today. Choose to be an example of what Monday can really be.

In luv and dessert,

Leisa Monique

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Dolce Far Niente

I’m so excited y’all! I have been working on a project that is very close to my heart for the past few weeks and I’m thrilled to say that it is in the final stages of completion. It’s a compilation of inspirational “desserts” to inspire you in the new year and I’m publishing it as an ebook.  I have never done anything like this before but I wanted to give you something to inspire you to greatness in this new year and it is what I came up with. The post for today is an excerpt from the ebook. I hope you enjoy it. I’ll publish more details on the ebook and how you can get your copy in the very near future. In the meantime, please enjoy this post. 


Sometimes… “Nothing” is much better than “Something.”
Arafath Shanas
Recently, I watched the movie “Eat, Pray, Love” again. In the movie one of the characters points out that the Italians have a saying “Dolce Far Niente” which means “The Sweetness of Doing Nothing.” How did I miss this all the other times I watched this movie? Taking time to sit in silence, watch the sunrise, the sunset, and still my mind and spirit have always been important to me. This is how I prefer to spend my days. Many people in my circle often ask me “what do you DO all day?” You see, I have the pleasure of working from home and doing exactly what it is that I want to do which is writing, reading, teaching, training, consulting and going to school full time. I chose my life and I chose to give up whatever would hinder me from having this life. I have let go of the expectations that the world has for me; the expectation that says I should always be striving to do more, have more, be more. I’m perfectly OK with taking time out of my day to do absolutely nothing without guilt or shame. I work hard for my clients. I work hard in school and I work hard to take care of my children. I also make sure that I take time to do one of my favorite things: nothing.
I encourage you to take time out of your day to do nothing. Take time to sit and enjoy the beauty that surrounds you and the beauty that is you. It may feel uncomfortable at first because we are programmed to always be doing something lest we be considered lazy. This way of thinking is what has us in the state of poor physical and mental health that we are in. Let go of that thinking and allow yourself the pleasure of just being and doing nothing.
In luv and dessert, 
Leisa Monique

Treasure

Yesterday was one of the most challenging days of my life. After an accident that sent a pedestrian to the hospital I began to question a lot. I felt absolutely awful about what happened and kept wondering why did it happen in the first place. I have learned that life gives us experiences that we need in any given moment for our growth and evolution but I gotta tell you, this one sent my mind wondering and even feeling a little down.

In my meditation this morning I was reminded of who I AM: Luv. I was reminded of all of the times that I have demonstrated luv including at the scene of the accident yesterday which turned out to be a tremendous blessing mostly because of the people that I met. During my meditation, this tune erupted in my Spirit and once again, I was reminded of who I AM: a Treasure of the Divine.

 I want to remind you that no matter what happens in our daily lives we are luv’d. Don’t allow the events of daily life to cause you to question who you are at your core. We all are presented with challenges and sometimes make decision that causes us to wonder “what the hell was I thinking,” but none of that changes who we are at our core.

We are human and in our humanness we don’t always do things the way we think we should. But just be reminded that inherent in every challenge or problem lies the solution or the answer. Look there. For surely you will find your treasure.

Fabulous Thanksgiving To You!

“Gratitude means to recognize the good in your life, be thankful for whatever you have, some people may not even have one of those things you consider precious to you (love, family, friends etc). Each day give thanks for the gift of life.You are blessed” 
 Unknown

“If a fellow isn’t thankful for what he’s got, he isn’t likely to be thankful for what he’s going to get.”
Frank A. Clark 

Good morning desserters. To all of my American friends, I wish you a wonder-filled Thanksgiving today. For all of my friends in other parts of the world that don’t celebrate Thanksgiving, I wish you a day of joy, peace, awareness, gratitude and consciousness. Know that I am thankful for each of you.  May you continue to see the blessing in YOU and may you always recognize your worth and value.

In gratitude,

Leisa Monique