Recently I was driving and thinking about the fact that folks in my circle were saying that they were not feeling the Christmas Spirit. I realized that I wasn’t either. With everything going on around us be it socially, politically or otherwise, I can see why we are feeling that way.
One thing that I do when I am feeling a certain way is ask myself the question of why I’m feeling that way and what is the source of the feeling. After asking this question about not being in the Spirit, I realized that it was because I had not CREATED the Christmas Spirit within me. I started to reflect on all the things that were going on in my own life and how I had let them interfere with my joy. I also realized that I decided at that point that I was going home to decorate my home and do what I needed to do to create the feeling of Christmas.
While getting together with girlfriends the next day I asked them if they were in the Christmas Spirit. It wasn’t a surprise when they both replied that there weren’t. I shared my revelation of not creating the Christmas spirit that I had had the previous day with them, and we all agreed that the Christmas Spirit is something that we could create. We had a profound conversation about how people no longer greet each other with a “Merry Christmas” or a “Happy Holidays” much anymore Like we experienced when we were growing up. We reflected on how as children, we remembered our parents greeting neighbors and people on the street with holiday greetings and well wishes. We remembered the holiday baking and cooking and the feeling that these acts brought with them. But we also reflected on some of the traumas that we associated with this time of the year and how they still affect us. It was a beautiful conversation on personal responsibility and connections and the power of creation. We left there agreeing to go about our days greeting people that we came in contact with and doing our part to crate the Holiday Spirit that we felt was missing.
I hope that if you are not feeling much like Christmas right now or are not in the Spirit of the holidays, that you will get yourself to a place where you can create the feeling and the experience that you desire. As Divine beings we have the power to create the reality that we want to have. Whether it be the holiday Spirit or a life that we enjoy, we are powerful beings Divinely gifted with the power to create our realities. There are many resources out there to guide you in this process. I f you need help with this please reach out. I am always here. May you have the happiest of holidays and may you create the life that you truly desire.
National Dessert Day happens to fall on my favorite day of the week: Monday. Couple this with the Full Moon in Aries and I’m in my happy place. Here at EMDF we believe that Monday, the start of the week for many, is a great day to set the tone for the rest of your week. It’s a great day to DECIDE that you will have the kind of week/days that make you happy. If you need some inspiration Indulge in one of our Daily Desserts. You’ll be sure to find something that inspires you. have yourself a great Monday!
When was the last time you told your SELF Thank You? As
you’ve thanked everyone for helping you, encouraging you and supporting you,
have you thanked your SELF? It is easy to overlook the very person who dreams,
who perseveres, who tries time and time again even when they fail. The person
who gets up each day and goes about their day no matter how routine or mundane
it may seem. The person who provides for themselves and their families. The
person who supports and encourages others. The one who is always there for
their friends and family. The person who believes in themselves, and in the
power of their own dreams.
So often we make it a point to thank other people in our lives. When someone expresses kindness to us, we thank them. When someone gives us a compliment, we thank them. When someone offers their support to us, we thank them. We make sure to thank others. But thanking ourselves is something we may rarely think of doing but should do more often. After all, it is you that takes care of you. It is you that gets up and moves forward even when you don’t feel like it. Without YOU, you wouldn’t be able to do any of the things that you do. So, just as you acknowledge other and give thanks to and for them, do the same for your SELF and tell YOU Thank You.
How did you come to be who you are? Did you choose the person you are or did someone else-society, religion, your parents-tell you who to be?
Recently I served as a panelist as part of a discussion on black woman, stereotypes and the #MeToo movement. The discussion centered on the stereotypes associated with black women and how those stereotypes helped perpetuate sexual violence against black women and how those stories are or are not being told in this time of #MeToo.
During the discussion the topic of black womanhood came up, specifically, what it means to be a black woman. My response was that as women, we came into our womanhood in a patriarchal society and that our womanhood has been defined by others. Men. A society that is male centered and male dominated has decided what the standards for being a woman are and women themselves have perpetuated this standard. Men have decided the standards for what a woman should be, how she should dress, how she should speak, how she should behave, wear her hair, who she should date and most importantly, her sexuality. And all of it is based on the needs, wants and desires of males.
Question for you: Did you as a woman have a say in setting the standard for who you are as a woman or did you fall in line with what was dictated to you? Do you sit quietly when you really have the desire to roar because you have been told that a lady is not loud? Do you stand by when you seen an injustice being committed against others when the warrior spirit in you really wants to fight against that injustice? Do you forgo the short miniskirt that set your heart ablaze when you first saw it or do you choose the more “appropriate” longer skirt because society says that only whores wear dresses that short?
My point is to inspire you to think about how you became who you are. If you are not being the woman you really want to be then I encourage you to courageously explore who you really are, what it is that you really like and what womanhood means for you and start on the path to becoming that woman. Know that you are supported every step of the way by the Divine. After all, it is the Divine who created you.