You have been activated

A few years ago I was asked to speak at a women’s empowerment luncheon. Naturally, my message was about the innate power that women possess to make and create change, why women don’t use that power and how to recognize and activate it. During my address I made the declaration that if the trajectory of the world was going to change, it would be by the hands of the world’s women. When women got tired of the violence, the miseducation of our children, childhood hunger, sexual assault, political policy that benefits only a few  and other things happening in the world and took a United stand, we would begin to see things change in the world.  I still believe this today.
 There has never been a time in history where women’s voices, their gifts, talents, skills, strategies and our powers are not more needed than they are right now. Our world is in peril but the tide is definitely shifting. Women have been activated. All around us we are seeing women and girls get on the front lines of change. We are demanding that the powers that be hear us. As a matter of fact, we are becoming the powers that be. More women are running for elected office and assisting women in getting into elected office than ever before. We are seeing a sharp rise in the number of African American women who are choosing to run for office as well.  We are seeing unprecedented numbers of women and girls engaging in activism and challenging the status quo.
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On this International Women’s Day, I encourage you to find your place in this time of change. You are here for such a time as this! You are well equipped to do what you have been placed in this world to do. You are smart, brilliant, powerful, strategic, skilled, talented and gifted so that you can do what you what you have been called to do. Take your place sister! You have been activated!

What About Your Freedom

“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.” 

― Jim Morrison

“Now that she had nothing to lose, she was free.” 

― Paulo Coelho

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I don’t think I need to say much more! It’s Monday, embrace your freedom to decide what kind of week you will have. Don’t allow anyone or anything to dictate how your day, your week or your life will go. Know and be who you are. And above all else, take time to enjoy the “desserts” of life…first!

Leisa Monique

Transition-Where You Were And Where You Are Going

“A lot of people resist transition and therefore never allow themselves to enjoy who they are. Embrace the change, no mater what it is; Once you do, you can learn about he new world you’re in and take advantage of it.

Nikki Giovanni 


“When I was going through my transition of being famous, I tried to ask God why was I here? Surely, it wasn’t just to win three gold medals. There has to be more to this life than that! 
Wilma Rudolph

I tear up as I write this. Yet again, I’m at a point of transition in my life and though I’m usually excited about the process of transition and look forward to what’s on the other side, this time I’m just tired. I feel like I’ve been in a perpetual transition for the past 5 years of my life. I’m mentally and emotionally exhausted and frankly I just want this shit to be over.

I know that for those of you who follow this blog regularly this may be a bit unusual to hear from me. But if you remember I always said that I would be transparent and share my own experiences with you so when I’m “going through” you get to read about it. I actually have been a bit absent from the blog for a while and for that I apologize. When I get to this point I tend to withdraw so that I can “hear” and get direction.

You guys know that I am a firm believe that life gives us exactly what we need at the moment we need it in order for us to grow and evolve from where we are to where we will be. I have always embraced that and trusted in the process. There is something different for me this time: there is so much frustration that I can hardly focus on the process and what this experience is here to help me do. I’m even a bit angry-at whom I’m not so sure. Ego has set in and I haven’t even engaged in my usual morning “dessert” practices of meditation, exercise, dancing and all the other stuff I usually do.

I have the greatest kids a mother could ask for though. They know me so well and can “feel” when I’m in this place. They tend to gather around me quietly as if to show their luv and support. They give me lots of hugs, cook for me and just offer their love. I appreciate that and the point is that we need support when we are experiencing transition. My close friends also “feel” this place I’m in. They call, send an encouraging text message but most of all they just let me BE.

And that is exactly what I have decided to do: to just BE and allow the beauty of this transition to unfold in front of me. I  AM releasing my resistance to it. I AM letting go of the fear of lack and not being able to provide for my family. I AM returning to my center of “knowing” and trusting that all is in Divine order because it is.

What I know for sure is that I AM luv’d and supported. I know that I AM not in this process alone but that the Divine Universe is with me every step of the way. I AM opening myself back up to what this experience has come to show me and I AM embracing it. This was not an easy thing to do as the frustration of being here (again) was almost overwhelming. But I know that all is well even when I feel like it’s not I know that it is.

What does transition look like for you and how do you get through it? Do you have practices in place to support yourself? Whatever you do please remember that you are not your experience. Know that there is something wonder-filled in the process of transition. Embrace it and embrace where you will be on the other side. Oh, and don’t forget (or abandon) your “Dessert” in all of this. It will be what gets you through to the other side!

Magnificent Monday-Choose Freedom


My theme for this week is Freedom-freedom from judging…myself or others! I find it quite amazing that we as humans so often criticize each other for the way that we handle the circumstances of life. We look at others and how they deal with situations or issues and make judgments about their character because they handle a particular situation different than the way we would handle it. Who ever said we are “right?” We often impose our  standards onto others (often unconsciously) and when they do something differently than the way we would do it we are quick to judge.

Often, people’s life experiences determine how we handle what comes our way on a daily basis. Because we all have different experiences that make us who we are, we will all handle things differently. That doesn’t mean it’s right or wrong. It’s just different! Luv is allowing others to be who they are and handle life the way THEY would handle it and not the way YOU would handle it AND not criticizing them for it.

Free yourself this week! Free yourself from criticism and judgment of yourself and others. Allow yourself and others the space to evolve and grow from every situations that presents itself in your life this week. Give yourself permission to be who you are. Embrace every aspect of your personality for it makes you who you are! And resolve to have a great week no matter what comes your way!

As always, have a Magnificent Monday!

Please Don’t Wish Me A Happy Father’s Day

Happy Father’s Day. This is a post that I originally posted last year for Father’s Day. I hope you enjoy it. Share your thoughts! 

“Happy Father’s day to all the single mothers out there!” A sentiment we hear so much on Father’s day and one that I personally believe is detrimental.  I myself have received a few text messages today wishing me a happy father’s day and I cringe at the thought of getting them. Although there are many single and divorced mother’s out there fulfilling the duties of their role as a mother and the role of father to their children they will never be a father!

I certainly understand the desire to congratulate and offer support to the many heroic women who are raising children on their own but more often than not this sentiment is used to disparage men who are not actively involved in their children’s lives. Although I am a divorced mother of four I understand that I am my children’s  mother and not their father. I understand that I will never be their father I will only be their mother. I make sure that my children understand this and never will I allow them to wish me a happy father’s day because I  sometimes fulfill the duties of both roles.

When women take on the role of being mother and father many times they start to believe that they don’t need a man in the house to help raise their children. True, there are many single women who are raising and have raised stable successful children but nothing can take the place of children having a father in the home. Fathers are needed in the home but because many women have taken on this “I don’t need a man” attitude they are not even open to the possibility of allowing a man to come in and be a part of their family. And why should they when they have been made to believe that they are both the mother and father and the presence of a man is not necessary in the lives of them and their children.

For little girls seeing this they too begin to believe that it is not necessary to have a man in the home to raise children. They see mama doing it and they often don’t learn the skills necessary to have a stable successful relationship with a man and build a family. They see their mother with children but they don’t see a man involved in those children’s lives and the cycle is perpetuated. For little boys, the message is that I can have babies but I don’t need to be involved in raising those babies because their mother can do it on her own. Their value as a future husband and father is diminished as they too see their mother raising her children on her own and being praised for it and neither do they learn the necessary skills to build a stable successful relationship with a woman. They also don’t learn the value of being a father and being a part of the lives of their women and children.

Children deserve to have a mother and a father in their lives whether their parents are still married or divorced or they are being raised by an unwed mother. Just because their parents may no longer be together doesn’t mean that they have to lose the presence of their father or someone else who is willing to fulfill the role of father in their lives. Mother’s should be mothers and understand that they can and never will be fathers. I believe that one of  the best gifts a mother can give to her children is to speak well of her children’s father even if their father is not actively present in their lives. Words spoken highly of their father to children often give children a sense of respect for him and I believe that the goal should always be to build respect even if in the mind of the mother he doesn’t deserve it.

So to all of the mothers out there that are raising children on their own I take my hat off to you but please, help your children understand the importance of having a father in their lives by just being their mother.

Repost-A Mother’s Vision




When I was a little girl my mother shared a story with me that forever impacted my life. It is a story that she still tells me to this very day and it is a story that I refer to whenever I am experiencing challenges in my life and when I have been tempted to throw in the towel.

She tells me that one day when I was a  baby she was at the train station waiting to board a train from San Bernardino to Los Angeles. She was holding me in her arms enjoying her day and an old lady walked past her. She said that as the lady passed her she stopped and turned around and walked over to where my young mother was sitting holding me. She smiled at my mother and said “That is a very special baby that you have. She is going to do great things in her life!” My mother smiled back and said “thank you” and the lady continued on her way.
There have been times in my life when I have faced what seemed to be insurmountable challenges none of which I will go into in this post. But during those times I would always remember my mothers words to me about what the lady shared with her about my life. Throughout my life my mother instinctively knew when I was experiencing those challenges and  needed to hear that story. She would always call me and tell it to me all over again as if for the first time. It has gotten me through some pretty rough times and continues to drive me even today. 
I am grateful that my mother has held that vision for me all these years and she continues to do so. I don’t even think she knows how much of an impact that it has had on my life all these years. 
To all of the mothers that are holding a vision of greatness for your children keep holding that vision for your children! Tell it to them often and let them know that they are destined to do great things. When they find themselves dealing with circumstances that are undesirable they will have their mother’s vision to fall back on and remind them to keep moving forward. 
I don’t know how I would have gotten through the rough times in my life had it not been for my mother’s luv and her continuing to tell me that story.  The beautiful thing is that I will never have to know!
Wishing all of you a very happy Mother’s day! And while you are holding that vision for your children please also remember the vision for your own life! Remember that you too are meant to do great things in this lifetime! Whatever your dream is, whatever your life’s desire is hold on to that dream and don’t let it go! For it was given to you with a purpose!