My best friend remarked to me a couple of days ago while we were having one of our usual conversations ” Leisa, you never get mad! I have seen people do some crazy stuff to you but I have never seen you get mad!” To that I laughed! At this point in my life, I usually don’t get mad at the things people say or do! But let me share some history with you.
There was a time in my life when I was angry! I was angry at everything and everyone-and I was hurting!! I was labeled militant by some who knew me because of my radical attitude and behavior! I was defensive and if I thought for a minute that you were trying to take advantage of me or hurt me in some way you caught the wrath of Leisa! And let me tell you, it was not pretty!
I was a bit arrogant (OK, more than a bit) because I knew what my talents were and I knew that people sought me out for those talents. I advanced to leadership very quickly on every job that I ever held because of those talents and because of my leadership ability. But ability talent and anger just don’t go together! They’re like oil and water and no matter how much you try to mix them up they just won’t work together.
Life has a funny way of helping you evolve into who you were created to be and I experienced some events in my life that were both embarrassing and humbling. Without going into detail I will tell you that you don’t EVER want to experience public humiliation! You don’t want to have someone else decide what your fate is going to be but because of some poor choices I made out of anger that is exactly what happened! I don’t regret any of it although when I was in the midst of it I just wanted it to go away.
That was nearly 15 years ago and much has happened since then. My life’s journey has offered me even more experiences that were humbling but by this time I was no longer angry. I saw these experiences as growing opportunities and when they happened the anger was replaced with compassion. By this time I had learned from personal experience that people are angry because they are in pain; the anger serves as a defense mechanism.
I have gone through a major spiritual transformation in the past few years and I have learned who I am and learned to luv me just as I am. I have learned that nothing anyone says or does changes anything about me! I am completely sure of who I am and nothing can change that.
During that transformation I developed my gift of understanding people. I understand people; I understand human behavior and why people behave the way that they do. I understand that when people are hurting anger can result. I understand that everyone is on their own journey and I respect their journey. I can allow them to be on their journey and even though a path on that journey may be anger, I understand that there is no need for me to express anger towards them, only compassion.
There may be times when you will have to protect yourself if you are in any physical danger and I encourage you to do so. Don’t ever stay in a situation that could cause physical or emotional damage to yourself for the sake of understanding someone who is angry. Your safety and health takes precedence over understanding in these situation.
Anger is dangerous! And getting angry at someone who has said or done something to hurt you only breeds more anger. It’s best to allow that person to be where they are and understand that their behavior towards you has nothing to do with you! Send up a prayer for them and luv them from a distance but never return anger for anger, it only causes you harm!