Happy Valentines Day-Daily Desserts to Inspire Self-Love

Happy Valentines Day to you all! I hope that while you’re giving luv to those closest to you, that you are giving luv to the most important person in your life: YOU! 
As my Valentines Day gift to you I want to share with you something that I have been working on for quite some time. It’s called “Daily Desserts to Inspire Self-Love” and it is my labor of luv to all of you. I hope you enjoy it. Click HERE to download.  Leave a comment in the comment section below and let me know what you think. 
In Luv and Dessert, 
Leisa Monique

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Fear and Personal Responsibility

Wow, I can hardly believe that I just posted my very first video on YouTube and I feel pretty good about it. About the video, yes, but more about taking personal responsibility and finally working through the fear that I felt about posting videos. I have my 12 year old fearless daughter to thank for that and for this post. It’s what I like about kids; they don’t succumb to fear. My daughter posts her videos and shares her thoughts with the world regardless of who may not like it and I have learned a lot from her. She handles her emotions about it like a champ!

Recording and posting this video reminded me of the anxiety that I used to have about such things. I worked through the fear of speaking publicly years ago and can now work a stage like you wouldn’t believe! I’m in my element when I’m on stage in front of a group of powerful women and I can say that being in front of a camera doesn’t bother me much either. By now you might be asking “So what was the fear about then Leisa?” Well, it was about feeling exposed and not in control. You see, when I’m on stage speaking, I have a good idea of who I’m speaking to. I get to choose who I get in front of and what I say and the audience is fairly limited. I’m prepared for this.  But posting a video of me talking about something I’m passionate about on a social media site exposes me to the world and for me that was a little scary.

People can be ruthless in their commentary and critique everything from your hair to what you are wearing to your grammar to everything and that was part of the fear; I wasn’t ready to feel the sting of people’s critique. But I also wasn’t ready for the praise that may come as well. Ahhh, the dichotomy of it all.

 If you watch the video you’ll notice that I am completely natural. I purposely wore no makeup and kept everything simple. I wanted to present myself JUST AS I AM in the raw. This is me y’all. As much as I talk about being your authentic self and being transparent I felt it necessary to present myself as such in my first video. But other’s may not feel that way and that’s OK with me. I’m a very simple girl and that translates into every aspect of my life.

I know that working through fear isn’t always easy. But knowing who you are-powerful, Divine, beautiful, love-and knowing that nothing anyone says about you can change that helps. When you are completely confident in who you are you can move forward through life and not worry about what others have to say about you. You can understand the place they are in and the source of their comments and give them the space to be where they are and know that it has nothing to do with you.

One of the most valuable pieces of wisdom I ever received was that “I am above no one and I am beneath no one.” Embracing this teaching has proven to be powerful for me and it has provided me with the ability to resist personalizing what other’s have to say about me. Reminding myself of this has been invaluable in helping me take responsibility for my own existence. It has taken some time as it relates to publicly posting videos but I’m happy to say I’m here and I’m excited.

I hope that you will take this to heart and whenever you are feeling fear about something know that no one can do it for you but you. We can look to others for inspiration but the power lies within you. so push fear aside, remember who you are and do your thing!

In luv and Dessert,

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Eat My Dessert First Intro and Personal Responsibility

Oh my goodness!! I FINALLY published my first video! At the urging of  advisors and close friends, I finally decided to make a video and actually post it. Y’all, this was a grueling process! I can see why some people avoid making and posting videos; it took forever to post!

To be honest with you, this is not the first video that I have recorded but it is the first one that I actually posted. Why? Because of fear! Yep, even I get fearful at times; fearful of criticism and even fearful of praise.  but this year I decided that I was going to operate in excellence and that means giving my best and part of that working through whatever fear I have about publishing and doing it!

Even though in the video I speak about something close to me that I’m really passionate about-personal responsibility-this video was more about actually DOING it and follow through! This is an area that I have not been as strong in as I would like to be but all that is changing!! I’m taking personal responsibility for my life and how I live it! I hope you find some inspiration to do the same!

In luv and Dessert,

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Fabulous Thanksgiving To You!

“Gratitude means to recognize the good in your life, be thankful for whatever you have, some people may not even have one of those things you consider precious to you (love, family, friends etc). Each day give thanks for the gift of life.You are blessed” 
 Unknown

“If a fellow isn’t thankful for what he’s got, he isn’t likely to be thankful for what he’s going to get.”
Frank A. Clark 

Good morning desserters. To all of my American friends, I wish you a wonder-filled Thanksgiving today. For all of my friends in other parts of the world that don’t celebrate Thanksgiving, I wish you a day of joy, peace, awareness, gratitude and consciousness. Know that I am thankful for each of you.  May you continue to see the blessing in YOU and may you always recognize your worth and value.

In gratitude,

Leisa Monique

Have a Wonder-Filled Day Luving Your SELF First!

Valentines Day 2019
In honor of Valentines Day, I am reposting one of my favorite blog posts that I wrote some years ago. I find that it is as relevant today as it was when I first wrote it. Enjoy. 
“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
– Rumi, thirteenth-century Sufi poet

“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.” 
― Steve Maraboli

As we celebrate the day of luv remember to honor, luv and accept your SELF right where you are. SELF is the core of who you are, your essence your Divinity. Accept it, luv it and honor it for doing so you are honoring the Divine in you!

Do something nice for your SELF today: rest, take a hot bath, dance, read a book, listen to soothing music…give your SELF a break from the stress and strain of life and give your SELF something wonder-filled.

I do hope that while you are expressing luv to those in your circle that you will take the time to give luv to your SELF. To guide you into doing do Please download my gift of Luv to you. It is an e-book entitled Daily Desserts to Inspire Self-Luv. I hope that it will indeed inspire you to find luv within you.

In Luv and Dessert,

Leisa Monique